SEXY FAN QUESTION: "How can I get an orgasm?"

Hi, I'll keep it short, I'm 22 years old, married, and with a year old baby. I would like to know how can I get an orgasm? I been sexually active since I was 19 and I never reach to that level.   Please help....

Momma Elle answers:

…women are beautiful, sensual, soft, wonderful creatures and it is so important that we feel pleasure and ORGASMS!

For nearly every woman; having orgasms starts with being comfortable with your sexuality, that means understanding that you are a sexual being, that having sexy thoughts, feelings, dreams and fantasies are a good, natural and wonderful thing.

It also means knowing and understanding your own body. Learn what your clitoris (clit) is, know what your labia (outer and inner lips) are and understand that your vagina is actually the entrance to your uterus (womb). Your ‘entire’ vagina/va-jay-jay/pussy/etc. is called a vulva… isn’t that a nice word?

Again I say to you, get to know yourself, get to know your vulva, feel how soft your vulva is, feel where all your parts are, learn how you feel as you touch them, can you touch yourself in a way that brings you pleasure? If not, why not? Think about this…ok?

Women rarely orgasm from pumping, it takes direct clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, especially the first 50 times or so! I want you to start taking time for yourself, to start learning about what feels good to you. See if you can take some time when the baby is napping, at a time when you are feeling sexy and want some sex...lock the bathroom door, and love yourself! Touch yourself and enjoy how this touching feels, experiment, try different ways to touch yourself. Most importantly play with your sensitive little knob and see if you can make yourself feel really good.  You may want to try a vibrator....that can help too...

This would be a good Vibrator to try: My First Vibe

 

It's ok if you don't orgasm at first, but the more you love on yourself, the closer that you will get to orgasm. Soon you will orgasm and it will feel great! 

Once you cum for yourself, it is easier to cum with your partner.....

Here are a few other things that I want you to work on....

Learn what your normal scent is, learn to enjoy your normal scent. Be OK with your normal scent, it is your God-given scent and it is wonderful! Ignore the billion dollar industry that tells you that your normal scent is yukky! They have lied to you to make money off of you!

Know when you ovulate, know what is a good contraception for you, (did you know that some bc pills, iud’s and many other bc’s with hormones can actually reduce your sex drive?).

Now is YOUR SEXY TIME!!! Don’t let your mom, your religion, your anything tell you that you cannot explore, feel and touch yourself and find pleasure and expect pleasure! 

Please remember that if this post has helped or touched you, comment anonymously  and let me know, and as always, invite your friends to ‘like’ my Facebook page…we don’t want them missing out!

Foreplay and freshness....

On Fridays I like to post about Foreplay and this is no exception....

When we get home from work and after a long week, both women and men can feel 'not fresh' in the sexy parts...

If we were to believe the commercials, women don't smell good, are itchy and a whole lot of other things.... Unfortunately, most of the problem are the damn products that these commercials tell us we need!

Girls...and Guys, all that is needed is water, not Irish Spring (unless you have been rolling around in the mud) or vagisprays, or fungicide powder.....for a normal crotch, daily bathing and flushing with water is all that is needed.... of course make sure after sitting down on the loo for a while that the backside is totally clean!

A nice bath or a hot shower daily... and using water or the hand-held shower head to flush your sexy crotch place is all that is needed for a clean fresh smelling sexy place!

Intact males,  most of you know how to  retract your glands and rinse, again just water, not soap....


Speaking of....how many of you ladies have enjoyed an intact male?  (No need to circumcise your baby boys, medically unnecessary and damages their penis...remember that if it is ever your decision...)

Back to freshness....on the other hand...If you find that there is a strong odor, that means that there is something else going on and I recommend that you send me a question and ask about it if you don't know what you are dealing with...

Because on Fridays, after movie night, you should be starting the weekend with some nice affectionate Foreplay....clean and fresh is where it is at!

GIRLS, Be Active with your BIRTH CONTROL

Lori’s grandmother raised 12 children, so taking on the task of raising Lori was an easy choice for her. Unfortunately Lori grew up sad, angry, and lonely. 

Lori started having boyfriends at an early age and without any kind of education about sex and birth control, (her grandparents were devoutly religious and didn’t discuss such) Lori became an unwed mother at 17. Lori, her new baby, and the baby’s father now live with her mother and her mother’s boyfriend. 

Lori’s chances of ever obtaining her high school diploma or any form of higher education are slim. Statistics show she is destined to less than a minimum wage job. Her ability to be self-supporting has dropped drastically, all to the lack of some conversation about sex and birth control.

  

Birth Control works!

Use CONDOMS!

Use The Pill!

Get an IUD!

Get the Depo Shot....

Real Stories from Planned Parenthood Clients

Please stop telling yourself you will stop having sex, or you can't get pregnant because you haven't yet, or any other such BULL...if you are making out, you are close to having sex and the repercussions of getting pregnant are life long. Unplanned pregnancies can have dire consequences not only for you, but your children and their children.

If you have questions about birth control, (guys too) ask me!

Call Planned Parenthood TODAY 

at 1-800-230-PLAN