Foreplay and freshness....

On Fridays I like to post about Foreplay and this is no exception....

When we get home from work and after a long week, both women and men can feel 'not fresh' in the sexy parts...

If we were to believe the commercials, women don't smell good, are itchy and a whole lot of other things.... Unfortunately, most of the problem are the damn products that these commercials tell us we need!

Girls...and Guys, all that is needed is water, not Irish Spring (unless you have been rolling around in the mud) or vagisprays, or fungicide powder.....for a normal crotch, daily bathing and flushing with water is all that is needed.... of course make sure after sitting down on the loo for a while that the backside is totally clean!

A nice bath or a hot shower daily... and using water or the hand-held shower head to flush your sexy crotch place is all that is needed for a clean fresh smelling sexy place!

Intact males,  most of you know how to  retract your glands and rinse, again just water, not soap....


Speaking of....how many of you ladies have enjoyed an intact male?  (No need to circumcise your baby boys, medically unnecessary and damages their penis...remember that if it is ever your decision...)

Back to freshness....on the other hand...If you find that there is a strong odor, that means that there is something else going on and I recommend that you send me a question and ask about it if you don't know what you are dealing with...

Because on Fridays, after movie night, you should be starting the weekend with some nice affectionate Foreplay....clean and fresh is where it is at!

Foreplay starts in the kitchen...and in the living room...and the backyard...

Foreplay.....the perfect way to get your Summer Sex Sizzlin'!

You don't have to be an expert at foreplay, you just have to have the desire to 'do' foreplay!

Start out simple, use words and actions....foreplay is all about a bit of flirtation, seduction and the promise of pleasure... 

Say something like, "you look so good tonight", as you walk up to the person that you want to have great sex with and touch their lips with your finger....

just stand there for a minute and show that you mean what you just said and how you touched....


Now that is foreplay!

When does foreplay work for you????   ...........   And when does it not....let me know, you can comment anonymously you know!

Facebook Reader Question: “My boyfriend is self conscious in bed!"

Question: My boyfriend is getting self-conscious in bed; he doesn’t really think that he is doing anything. (in other words the question is: Can you help me, help him, feel more confident in bed?)

Momma Elle answers:

It is so important for each of us, not just men, to feel accomplished and worthwhile during sex/lovemaking/etc.

If you know and feel that your partner is struggling with this, it is sooooo important for you to change this dynamic in your relationship.

Sexual confidence for a man is more than just having sex with his woman. He needs to be told and shown frequently that he is enough for his woman, enough in bed, enough in size, enough in life…. he needs to know that you are proud of him.

Telling him you are PROUD of him and why, will mean more to him than telling him that you love him. I am not sure why, it just is…. (Someday I will write about this and John Edwards)

Most men, and some woman, have a very strong physical need for sex. The physical release of orgasm is strong, demanding and necessary; this isn’t necessarily true for all men and in contrast is even true for some women.  This strong physical need for release can make some men very thoughtless when it comes to sex. As their partners we need to help them remember….

Momma Elle Statement #1! SEX IS MORE THAN JUST PUMPING!

Foreplay is very important…even 10 good minutes of foreplay can mean all the difference to a woman! In contrast, when a woman spends 10 minutes of foreplay on her man, this can show him that you think he is a real stud and totally HOT! Make sure foreplay is a natural part of your sexual activity.

Also it is very important to help your man know what feels good to you! Talk to him, say things like, “Oh that feels so good!” “I love it when you do that!” “You are driving me crazy as you do that!”, and so on….he will start to gain confidence as he sees you enjoying all the wonderful things that he is learning to do to you to make you feel wonderful! 

If you embrace these suggestions; his self-confidence in bed will skyrocket and increase the sexual fulfillment enjoyment for you both!

Guys, if you wanna be a real stud........

Guys, if you wanna be a real stud, if you want to feel the power and pride of having your woman ‘purr like a kitten’, you have to become really good at foreplay! 

Foreplay is all about time….You take the time to make good food, you take the time to be good at sports or at your job… SO TAKE THE TIME TO LEARN TO BE REALLY GOOD AT FOREPLAY!

Once you accomplish this, her orgasms will come quicker and be more satisfying for you both. 

A woman can have many orgasms in one sexual encounter, but it takes different kinds of sexual play to get to that point. If you haven’t taken the time in your relationship to get to know each other sexually, then make and TAKE the time immediately!

Unsatisfying, complicated sex can ruin a lot of good feelings in a relationship!

Most women learn to orgasm and orgasm quickly from foreplay and especially foreplay that includes oral sex…remember, women are made differently, they need stroking, touching, licking, prodding and sucking… all those wonderful things…

AND…if you add in sweet sayings of love and beauty, she will be purring like a kitten in your hand on no time….